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How To Be Dateable
Break free from the traps of modern dating and learn how to take control of your love life in this actionable, compassionate guide that will help you find your person and become your most dateable self.
Written by Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu –
As active daters turned dating insiders, we've made breaking down the nuances of the ever-evolving dating world, and empowering the people within it, our purpose and passion. Drawing on a decade’s worth of research from speaking to thousands of daters and world-renowned experts, we believe everyone is dateable—it’s just the modern dating norms that keep us from falling in love. We're so excited to bring all our learnings to you in this book. We completely changed the way we date and do relationships – and know you can too!
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WHY WE WROTE THIS BOOK
We're in a love crisis. But there is a way out.
It's no secret that dating is more challenging than ever. With all the ghosting, love bombing, and bread-crumbing, dating can feel like an apocalypse at times. Like an endless maze you can't escape. But through our last almost 10 (!) years of Dateable, we've found a way out.
By writing this book, it clicked for us: once you recognize the traps of modern dating, you can start to rise above them. That’s when you start dating your way: taking back control and power from the apps, the person who didn't text back, or that what-are-we-situationship.
We wrote this book to help you get to your Dating Utopia, where you actually enjoy dating and know you'll find your person. Instead of adapting to dating culture as you know it, we'll help you funnel your energy into what matters and clear your path to love. This book is here to help you think differently about dating and DIY a love life that works for you.
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After a year of online dating I was ready to throw in the towel. Then I got a new perspective from Datable and began to be more intentional with my messaging and gained the confidence to lead with vulnerability. I started asking questions like “what have you learned about yourself in the last 10 years?” Instead of “do you like hiking?” and the variety in responses made it so clear who was and wasn’t worth investing in, and also helped me stand out and make deeper connections. I couldn’t be happier with the deep connection I have formed with them. Thanks!!!
I’ve listened to many dating & relationship podcasts over the years. As a 35 year old woman, I wish I found this podcast earlier in my dating journey. I’m in a LTR now and I find Julie & Yue’s insight so humble and honest. I’ve found other hosts hard to relate to in terms of age or mindset around dating, and I really appreciate their unpretentious and authentic feedback. They feel like the kind of podcast hosts you can actually envision getting a meal with and laughing the night away.
These two gals are hilarious and an amazing resource for learning and perspective when it comes to dating, life, meeting people… I look forward to listening to every episode!I I am reminded of why I’m dating the first place, what I want out of it, and how I want to show up when I’m in it. It’s been incredibly supportive over the past year for me personally as I’ve been on and off dating apps; their perspective has brought me back from the feelings of frustration and has brought back the excitement and joy that can come from meeting new people.
I’ve been listening to this podcast for over a year now and it’s completely changed the way I view dating and relationships. I appreciate all your insights and the guests that you bring on. I love learning about different dating perspectives and challenging my own biases around relationships. Dating used to be so daunting and there was always a sense of dread around going on dates. I would settle for people that weren’t aligned with me, but because of this podcast, I feel so more at peace with myself and confident in the qualities I’m looking for in a partner.
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See how we've helped daters just like you
After years of dating, I finally met my girlfriend in a grocery store of all places! I truly could not have gotten this far without Julie & Yue’s help. They gave me the confidence to approach more people IRL and helped me learn how to build connection and rapport in these interactions. I’d probably be lost without you all but now I’m in a happy relationship!
After 5 years of being single, I'm officially off the market! I met someone I would have never swiped on before – in fact, I was adamantly anti-apps for years. But after using a lot of the advice from Dateable, I decided to listen to my gut when swiping right. And I couldn't be happier. Month later, I'm with a man who fulfills my needs and is everything I've ever asked for.
When I first turned to Dateable, I felt completely burnt out with dating. I had just gotten ghosted after a 12-hour phone "date.' Once I started shifting the way I approached dating with Yue & Julie's guidance, I started getting into more relationships – including the one I'm happily in now! Dateable has been a game-changer to the way I love others – and myself!
I came to Dateable because I felt behind because I hadn't been in a relationship before. Julie & Yue helped me see that this was 1) totally normal and 2) helped me gain the skills and confidence to not only enter my first real relationship – but also recognize when it wasn't meeting my needs and working for me. I truly feel like a more confident dater ready to take on the dating world.
