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7 ways to turnaround a bad date that feels like a job interview
Picture this: you're sitting across from someone you met on a dating app, and instead of engaging in lively banter and flirtatious exchanges, you find yourself fielding a barrage of interview-style questions. Welcome to the dreaded Daterview that feels more like a grueling job interview than a date!
But fear not, for there are ways to turn the tide and transform your daterview into a delightful date. Here are some tips to help you make the most of the situation (and possibly even have a great date!):
First things first, if you sense your date veering into interview mode, it's time to take the reins and steer the conversation in a different direction. Instead of dwelling on work-related topics, why not delve into more personal territory? Ask about their passions, hobbies, or even their most memorable travel experiences. By shifting the focus away from the mundane, you can inject some much-needed spontaneity into the conversation.
They say laughter is the best medicine, and nowhere is that truer than on a date that feels like a job interview. Lighten the mood by sharing funny anecdotes or asking playful questions. Not only will humor help break the tension, but it can also create a more relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere for both parties.
There's something undeniably endearing about vulnerability. So, don't be afraid to open up about your own experiences, dreams, and challenges. By baring your soul, you encourage your date to do the same, fostering a deeper connection that transcends the interview dynamic.
If your date seems determined to stick to their list of interview questions, it's time to gently nudge them off course. Politely redirect the conversation by suggesting a change of topic. For example, you could say something like, "I'm enjoying our conversation, but let's mix things up a bit. How about we talk about something fun or unexpected?" By steering the dialogue in a new direction, you can breathe new life into the interaction.
If you're feeling uncomfortable with the direction of the conversation, don't be afraid to speak up. Politely express your feelings and suggest a more relaxed approach to getting to know each other. Remember, dating should be enjoyable and fulfilling, so don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.
Feeling like your date is spiraling out of control? Take charge and suggest a change of scenery. Whether it's moving to a different location or trying out a new activity, shaking things up can help reset the tone and create a more organic and enjoyable interaction.
Finally, if you find yourself consistently experiencing daterviews, it may be time to reevaluate your compatibility with your dates. Are you truly connecting on a deeper level, or are you simply going through the motions? Don't be afraid to listen to your gut and move on to someone who shares your values and vision for the future.
Remember, dating is supposed to be fun and fulfilling. If you're not feeling comfortable or engaged, it's okay to politely end the date and move on to greener pastures. After all, life's too short to waste on daterviews! Listen to the pod for more tips and ways to navigate modern dating!